Mom and Dad is still Mom and Dad. Whether ‘real’ or not.

Hello and good evening everyone. How are you all doing? As I can imagine, all of you must know that the 2016 Olympics has already begun where every athlete is giving their all to win. Although, I am not particularly a big fan of the Olympics, I wish all of the athletes the very best in whichever sport they are competing in.

Anyway, since it is the Olympics season, today I wanted to discuss the recent talk regarding the outstanding gymnast, Ms. Simone Biles, who has so far dominated the gymnastics sport. She is the first black woman to win the world all around champion and the first woman to win three consecutive world all around titles. In my book that is very impressive but to some her being adopted by her grandparents seem to be more important. Someone commented that though her grandparents are her mom and dad they are not her REAL parents. No sh*t, Sherlock. So what exactly are they to her then? Please enlighten us with your wisdom dear sir?…

I decided to write about this topic because after coming across this Washington Post article, it somewhat resonated with me on personal level. Considering I am also an adopted child. I too have come across insensitive people who have told me the same or similar things Ms. Simone Biles has been told by others. It is really ridiculous that people have to go as far as to point out that “Oh don’t forget that you were adopted. Your parents are not your REAL parents.” Like, excuse me?!

Sure, many adopted children (and adults) are already aware that they are adopted they do not need you or anyone else reminding them. But in hind sight, that does not mean their mom and dad is not their parents, just because their parents did not give birth to them! This sort of thing would annoy and upset me to no end and sometimes still does. For all I care my parents could have been black, white, Asian or whatever but as long as they raised me well with love and respect that is all I, and many adopted children and adults, care about. Having the same blood running through your veins does not make someone a parent. A child who knows that they are being loved, cherished, nourished, disciplined and everything in between by their guardian is what makes that parent their mom and dad.

A few people have even come to quarrel with me because I did not agree or go along with their idea of what being adopted is about. It was infuriating at times. This is also one of the reasons why I am publishing a children’s picture book series discussing various topics, with adoption being just one of them. (Read: My children’s picture book is now underway to being published!)

In my eyes, as a fellow adoptee, her grandparents are her mom and dad. End of story. No one has the right to say otherwise who an adoptee’s REAL parents are. Because chances are they already know. There is no need for your two cents. It does not matter what anyone else thinks. Mom and dad will always be mom and dad no matter what anyone says.

So, what are your thoughts on this matter? Do you agree, disagree or have no opinion about it? Well anyway, I hope you enjoyed this post and I will see you all next time. Take care.

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2 thoughts on “Mom and Dad is still Mom and Dad. Whether ‘real’ or not.

  1. Mother and Father indicate biological genetic donations to conception. Mom and Dad are titles earned by loving and raising a child. Sometimes Mom and Dad are not the Mother and Father, such as in Simone’s case. Her grandfather and his wife (who is not Simone’s biological grandmother) are indeed her parents. The woman who gave birth to her gave up the right to be called a parent. The human male who donated his genetic material to Simone is hardly worth mentioning.

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